Yep. It has literally been six months since my last blog post. Typing that makes me sad. It makes me feel like I failed, and in some ways I did. I didn’t meet the original goals I set out for myself. I didn’t accomplish what I wanted to accomplish, but then again, I’m not finished yet.
The reality is that starting, failing, and starting again is as much a part of life as waking and sleeping. It’s something that we either accept or overcome. As I stare at the date of my last post while it mocks me like some kind of medieval shaming device, I’m reminded that in order to move forward, I must let it go.
That compulsion in me that needs everything to be perfect is keeping that everything from being anything. The part of me that thinks I don’t know enough about web design or haven’t decided what photo to use for this post is the enemy of the message.
Maybe you’ve felt the same way. Maybe you have these lingering doubts or feelings of failure? Perhaps it’s because you ate two bags of Cheetos last night after sticking to your diet for two weeks. Maybe you talked to your friends about a project or an idea only to let it fade away along with their support and encouragement. Maybe you just dropped the ball on an assignment or started to write a book only to stare at the blinking cursor of loneliness.
Whatever your failure, it’s time to embrace it…and move on. You see, embracing failure is not accepting it. It is realizing it exists and you are responsible. Several times over the last few months, I have allowed perfect to be the enemy of good, but then I have to remind myself that tomorrow is a new day.
So…give yourself permission to start over. Don’t waste your time on all the reasons it hasn’t worked, and focus on the reasons it will. What’s holding you back? What is that one failure that you really want to overcome? The first step is to start again. That’s what I’m going to do. Will you join me?